In 2012 I did one of the hardest workout programs that I had ever done (at the time) with my then boyfriend (now husband). It was tough but I remember that he kept pushing me and punking me into not quitting. I got into great shape, imho, and I loved my progress. After that however I was ready to ditch my workout buddy. He was on my nerves for sure. I have a list of reasons that it sucks to workout with your mate.
If you were going to the gym as a way to get away from it all, then you can hang that up real quick! Sometimes when everyone is on my nerves I like to hit the gym and throw around the weights without being reminded of my problems. Having him there messes up my time to be alone and think it out while letting out my aggression.
Working out with someone more fit than you can sometimes be discouraging. They oftentimes will be able to do things that you can’t do and they might make you feel bad for holding them back. It is similar when the other person is less fit. Going slower and/or less hard than is needed for your progress can be upsetting and you might feel pressured to not leave your buddy behind. Nobody wants to get less of a workout due to the less fit partner and the less fit partner can’t do what the more fit partner can do.
I HATE waiting for equipment in the gym. It really just holds me up. I am so happy when I wait somebody out and get a machine or barbell all to myself. When you’re working out with someone else you will have to wait in between sets. The wait is usually longer than is recommended to make the weightlifting session useful. Who wants to do an ineffective workout on purpose? Not me!
I have been in hate with cardio for years. It hurts my chest. Lol. I’m not ashamed to say it. I have gotten much better at it over the years and built up a great tolerance. I have even improved my breathing which makes it all feel a lot better, but it’s still not my favorite. I LOVE LIFTING WEIGHTS! It is fun and well it makes me feel strong. I am upset that it took me so long to even try them but I’m happy I did. My hubby on the other hand doesn’t care for it and often criticizes the whole practice and the people who like to do it. He is a cardio king. He loves running and has been in many marathons over the years. He doesn’t find much value in lifting and basically we have to compromise on our workouts. He is interested in cardiovascular health and muscles don’t seem to be a thing he desires. I, on the other hand, want a banging body with little to no flab. I don’t want to be skinny fat. I want to be lean and strong. The body I want requires weights! If you don’t want to be bothered with compromising your own actual fitness goals for someone else then keep it solo!
I’m sure there are some of you lucky ladies that don’t have this problem at all but alas some of us have to deal with the nonsense. My husband is jealous of me going to the gym myself especially because I like lifting weights. He thinks that I should like cardio more and that weights are for men. He thinks that I only want to lift weights because I want to be where the men are. Whenever he is with me he messes up my workout by focusing on who he perceives to be looking at me. He thinks all stances look sexual and honestly it’s an annoying distraction. I’d rather not have him there at all. Your significant other might not be as crazy as mine but I’ve seen many women speak about having jealous mates in fitness groups (including in the Fit Naturals Group)
That about sums up my reasons. Do you workout with your mate? Do you dislike it too? What are your reasons? Let me know in the comments